Thursday, December 22, 2011

Very sad update

I apologize for taking so long to update. I wish I could go back and do things on my schedule, but I was trying to be sensitive to other people, and give my husband time to inform people of our devastating news, versus having them read it on the blog. It turns out that he did notify everyone; they’ve just chosen to remain silent, whatever. I have MUCH bigger concerns at this point.

Our sad news, we lost Baby A in November, during my 22nd week of pregnancy. The grief is overbearing at times, but I have to be strong for Baby B. She is doing very well, continuing to get at least one ultrasound a week and looking great.

And for the next blog update, you won’t believe where I’m spending Christmas.

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  1. Heather @ It's A Lovely Life!December 22, 2011 at 3:45 PM

    I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I had something better to say, something that would make it all better, but there are no such words. I'll be thinking of you.

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  2. AnonymousDecember 22, 2011 at 3:46 PM

    Coming out of lurkdom to tell you I'm so sorry for you loss. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
    Melissa in Durham

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  3. JemDecember 22, 2011 at 3:53 PM

    Oh, C, that's terrible news. I'm sure people in your life are silent because they don't know what to say.

    It must be so difficult to have mixed feelings: sadness at losing A, and immense joy that B is sticking around.

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  4. BabyliciousDecember 22, 2011 at 3:59 PM

    So so sorry. I'll be thinking of you during this time and thinking strong/healthy thoughts for Baby B.

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  5. JustHeatherDecember 22, 2011 at 4:00 PM

    I'm so sorry for you and your family's loss of Baby A. Thinking of you all and keeping Baby B in my thoughts.

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  6. ElizabethDecember 22, 2011 at 4:05 PM

    Please accept my condolences (and my apologies for bugging you for an update recently). I'm glad that baby B is going strong. Thinking of you.

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  7. KellyDecember 22, 2011 at 4:17 PM

    I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you.

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  8. AnonymousDecember 22, 2011 at 4:23 PM

    I am so very sorry to hear about your sweet baby boy. I really am.
    My thoughts are with you all, and hope that things are calm and peaceful the rest of your wait.
    Big hugs!
    Tracie

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  9. OzgirlDecember 22, 2011 at 4:36 PM

    I am so sorry to hear your of your loss. But Happy that Baby B is going strong!

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  10. LauraDecember 22, 2011 at 4:44 PM

    I am so sorry.

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  11. niobeDecember 22, 2011 at 5:36 PM

    What heartbreaking news. Thinking of you.

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  12. KimDecember 22, 2011 at 6:19 PM

    So sorry to hear about this. Warm thoughts to you and your family as you deal with this over the holidays.

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  13. Baby Smiling In Back SeatDecember 22, 2011 at 6:20 PM

    I am so sorry.

    Losing one twin is so strange and frightening, I understand why people are afraid to say anything even though you'd hope that they'd overcome their awkwardness to show compassion.

    I hope you have a wonderful Christmas.

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  14. Nomads By NatureDecember 22, 2011 at 6:48 PM

    I'm so sorry about the loss of Baby A. Prayers to you and your husband as you process such sad news and for strength for Baby B as she continues to grow and develop.

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  15. China DollDecember 22, 2011 at 7:02 PM

    I'm so very sorry for your loss. I'll be thinking of you and your family in this most difficult time xx

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  16. Life HappensDecember 22, 2011 at 7:51 PM

    So sorry for your loss. I pray that baby B continues to thrive. Keeping your family in my prayers during this holiday season.

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  17. luckymeDecember 22, 2011 at 9:31 PM

    That's the saddest news, tragic...so sorry for your loss of Baby A. Sorry to hear people have gone quiet too, people worry too much about saying the wrong thing and end up saying nothing. Thinking of you both and Baby B x

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  18. BeckyDecember 22, 2011 at 10:51 PM

    I am so, so sorry. I will be keeping you in mind in the weeks to come.

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  19. tireegal68December 22, 2011 at 11:17 PM

    This is just heartbreaking, C. I'm so so sorry. I wish I could heal this wound and kick your relatives into reaching out to you all at the same time. Praying so hard for baby B and mourning with you for the awful loss of Baby A. Big big hugs.
    Looking forward to finding out where you will be at Christmas:)

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  20. JacksmomDecember 23, 2011 at 12:07 AM

    I thought maybe I was just missing updates. I am so sorry to hear about baby A, but relieved to hear that baby B continues to do well. My thoughts are with your families.

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  21. Z. MarieDecember 23, 2011 at 1:34 AM

    I've been wondering (and worrying about) what might be happening. I'm so sorry to hear about little Baby A but so happy to know Baby B is doing well. Good luck to all of you!

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  22. AnonymousDecember 23, 2011 at 1:54 AM

    I was just thinking of you the other day. I am so so sorry for your loss. I'll be thinking of you and baby B in the coming weeks and months.

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  23. SDecember 23, 2011 at 2:54 AM

    I'm so so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you and your babies.

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  24. AnonymousDecember 23, 2011 at 6:03 AM

    I am really sad to read your news, my prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.

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  25. AnonymousDecember 23, 2011 at 7:22 AM

    I am so sorry about your baby boy. Keeping you and your little girl in my thoughts and prayers that she continues to grow strong and healthy.

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  26. AnonymousDecember 23, 2011 at 9:51 AM

    I am so, so sorry to read this terrible news. My thoughts are with you and your family as you navigate this difficult time.

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  27. BrandyDecember 23, 2011 at 10:40 AM

    I'm so very sorry for your loss! I can't even imagine what you're going through.

    www.brandysheaif.blogspot.com

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  28. MoDecember 23, 2011 at 11:44 AM

    Oh C, I am so sorry to hear that you lost Baby A. What difficult news. I am glad that Baby B is doing well and will be sending all my thoughts to you and your family this holiday season.

    Mo

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  29. Brad & RachelDecember 23, 2011 at 12:55 PM

    I was so worried that this had happened with your long silence. I am praying for you during this difficult time but very relieved (not really the right word) to hear that Baby A is still growing and doing well.

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  30. elliespenDecember 23, 2011 at 1:03 PM

    Oh, C. We are so very sorry to hear of your loss. You and your family are in our hearts, our thoughts, and our prayers. Please let us know if there is anything we can do for you, even though we only know you through the internet.

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  31. FranDecember 23, 2011 at 3:23 PM

    I had been thinking of you so much, feared something was wrong but willed myself to believe it was just in my head... I'm so so sorry my friend, much love and peaceful thiughts your way. Fran

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  32. EmbyDecember 23, 2011 at 7:40 PM

    I am so sorry. I will remember you and your family in my prayers. I hope that Baby B is healthy.

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  33. AnonymousDecember 24, 2011 at 4:31 PM

    I'm so sorry that Baby A died. My son died at 22 weeks and it broke my heart. Peace and strength to you in the weeks ahead as you do the hard work of mothering your babe in utero.

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  34. AnonymousDecember 27, 2011 at 1:50 PM

    I am so sorry that you lost Baby A. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  35. PhotogrlDecember 28, 2011 at 9:11 PM

    Oh, C. I'm so, so sorry.

    Holding you and your family close in my thoughts and prayers.

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  36. EveJanuary 4, 2012 at 3:29 PM

    I am here from LCFA, and my heart breaks to hear that yet another mother has to deal with this heartwrenching loss. I was in your exact shoes just nearly two years ago. On January 12, 2010 we disovered that my twin A (Will) had died at nearly 25 weeks. We were utterly devastated and frightened for my survivor, Abby. Though I did have preterm labor issues, I was able to carry both my twins nearly to their due date and delivered them together at 37 weeks. It is still a journey that most don't understand in our real life. I felt a lot of 'at least you have your other twin' sentiments that were sometimes said outright and sometimes implied. It is bullshit. Losing a baby is losing a baby. There is a FB support group for mothers of a lost multiple, much who have had the same experience as us. Please feel free to email me so I can get you hooked up with it, as it is a private group. Also, know that you are not alone, and that there are truly women out there who know this awful and difficult path. Email me with any questions you have or if you just need to talk (samwisejenks at gmail.com). Much Love. Eve

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  37. TeeJayJanuary 9, 2012 at 6:37 AM

    I'm sorry that I'm just now seeing this. My heart is so sad for you right now. I was wondering if something were wrong since it was a while between updates. I'm so sorry for your loss. There are no words to express how much I wish I could just give you a big hug.

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