This morning I was seen by the head RE/ owner of the clinic. He did my egg retrieval in 2009 and remembered me. After the ultrasound, he input the details into the computer. Unfortunately, one follicle is way ahead of the others, so he wants to push back the retrieval until Monday (it was supposed to happen on Friday). This is bad news bears for several reasons.
1. We have no childcare for Monday. None, zero, zilch. Finding someone to watch Kate for a few hours on Friday was already difficult, Monday is impossible. My doctor said we could bring her to the clinic, but eep, I hate the thought of doing that.
2. This also messes with my husband’s work schedule, again. Under normal circumstances, coming in a few hours late, taking a few days off wouldn't be a huge deal (especially with the amount of time he has built up). However, he’s one of two people in the entire country who does what he does, so yeah, big deal. His coworker has been amazingly understanding but really, how much more can we ask.
3. Meds. I’ve already been on 450 of Gonal F and Puregon for 12 days. Now I have to do another two days. Fortunately the clinic was able to find enough Gonal F to get me through to Friday; ugh I hate not having insurance coverage. HATE.
4. It’s more money, again, no insurance coverage for infertility treatment. Every time I go to the clinic it’s yet another $172 for blood work (blood work isn't included in the IVF cost). Doing this every other day adds up.
5. Thinking into the future, if we have embryos, and if they make it to blast stage, transfer will likely happen the following Friday. This throws a major kibosh on attending the biggest embassy event of the year. Really, it’s not a huge deal to miss it, but I ordered Kate the most adorable, monogrammed dress, and it would have been one of our last opportunities to see people before we leave in August. My husband absolutely has to attend (work-related), so I guess worst case scenario, Kate and I stay home, and I somehow try to manage not lifting an 11-month old, since I’m supposed to be on bed rest.
This just never gets easier. I am so unbelievably bitter and jealous of people who don’t have to go through this to have a child. IF is so unfair.
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It really does suck when you put yourself through the wringer (mentally, emotionally and financially) and you can't catch one little break of having things fall on a good date. I'm sorry that your dates are not falling into place. I'm trying to keep the positive outlook that since the other smaller follicles will have more time to grow and mature that you will have an even better chance and success this cycle. ((hugs))
ReplyDeleteScheduling time off is so hard, espeically last minute. I hope something works out for you. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteIt isn't fair at all. Hoping that things fall into place for you!
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Ugh, I'm sorry to hear about the complications. As if things are complicated enough!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for your sweet comment on my blog! Wishing you the very best of luck, and no more unpleasant surprises!
IF is completely unfair. Sorry to hear about the retrieval getting pushed back. I hope that you are able to work all of the logistics out and that IVF #3 works for you! Thanks for stopping by my blog.
ReplyDeleteSorry -- Through three IUIs, three IVFs, and one FET, by far the most stressful things for me were the scheduling (full time job) and money (no insurance for IVF). The first IVF, I took annual leave for the whole week when my retrieval/transfer might happen. Second time, retrieval fell on a Saturday and I called out sick for the transfer. That kind of backfired, because I was perfectly healthy and people kept asking me the next day about my symptoms. Third time, I just took off 3 hours for the ER and went back to work after (it's a fairly easy procedure for me, thanks to very few eggs retrieved each time, this time 4) and the transfer fell on a weekend. Sorry, I know this isn't about me - good luck working it out. The unpredictability certainly doesn't help anything.
ReplyDeleteHello from ICLW! This is my first round through this and I am finding some amazing new blogs to read and 'stalk'. It is comforting knowing that I am not the only one going through the struggles of infertility. I have dealt with it silently and on my own and being able to open up in this blog world has been a life saver. Good luck with everything. I am sure it will all work out.
ReplyDeleteUgh. Well, here's hoping that the change in date at least yields some positive news that will make you even happier than an uninterrupted schedule would have done! :)
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Thanks for the comment on my blog. It's hard not to be bitter when we go through so much that everyone else takes for granted. Hugs.
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ReplyDeleteSorry that your cycle schedule is getting crazy! I hope that everything works out for you!
I think people can underestimate how stressful it can be trying to fit all the treatment commitments into your life. I gave up work to have treatment but it was still stressful trying to get my husband NOT to plan business trips at times when he would possibly be needed.
ReplyDeleteYes, IF is totally unfair :( But hoping that it will all be worth it this cycle :) xx
I agree about the bitterness...on one hand I feel so grateful to have this technology available to us and this opportunity to have biological children - I mean that's obviously a really huge deal for us - but on the other hand, when I physically feel so crappy, I get bitter that for most people making the baby is the FUN part of the journey. I hope everything works out for the best schedule-wise and that you'll get a great number of mature eggs!
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ReplyDeleteI am sorry this cycle is proving to be so difficult for you. I know that is the nature of IVF, so unpredictable, but that does not make it any easier when you find yourself in the thick of it. Fingers and toes are crossed for you.
sending lots of love and luck to you...
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Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my blog. :)
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry you have to go through this scheduling headache. Hopefully it will be worth all the stress in the end. Good luck!
Sorry about all of the complications. I was very lucky that all of my appointments fell on my day off, and it was our 1st so no other child to find care for.
ReplyDeleteI hope it all works out in the end!
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Ugh, I feel your pain! As if IF isn't hard enough, then there are these bumps in the road. I wish that money didn't have to be an issue (we don't have IF coverage either)...it would make the process much less stressful! I hope everything works out and it's worth it in the end! :)
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by my blog. IVF is such a struggle to fit around work etc, I find it very stressful!
ReplyDeleteI am going to ask my RE about autoimune testing as it has been at the back of my mind now for a while.
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Welcome back to blogging! I didn't realize until this ICLW that you were back. I was reading you right up until you left for the US to deliver your daughter, and then you never posted again--I've been wondering what happened. I'm so glad to hear that your daughter is well. Best of luck with this cycle!
ReplyDeletePS Where are you posted next, after you leave Dublin? I've read some of your old posts from the last few months, but haven't made it through all of them yet.
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ReplyDeleteI hated the uncertainty of my schedule with the IVF cycle. Best of luck with everything.
Stopping by from ICLW! I just wanted to say that I'm sorry that you have to add the added stress of work/childcare to an already stressful time. But--good luck on your upcoming retrieval/transfer!
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It seems like this is turning out to be a stressful cycle for you. I am sorry about that. Thanks for stopping by my blog to show your support.
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ReplyDeleteI wish you that this cycle all the investments - emotional, physical, and monetary - proof to be all worth it!